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New Beginnings – Preparing my Daughter For Middle School

New beginnings can be exciting for some. For my eleven-year-old, it’s overwhelming! – Ken

Fresh start excites some but, just like me, it scares my eleven-year-old daughter who’s getting ready to enter middle school in less than two weeks. To help ease her nervousness, I’m doing or have already done the following:

  1. I’ve included her in the selection process –  I believe it was important to have her voice heard. I also kept her informed along the way, which put her mind at ease to a certain degree. We attended several open houses together during the fall and we fully explained our reasons for the choices we were making. As expected, she had a mouthful to say. Particularly, why we were not sending her to the same school as her friends.
  2. I investigated  and discovered a friend of hers will be attending the same school and scheduled a play-date before the start of school – she’s actually looking forward to this.
  3. Familiarizing myself with the school policies and the administration, so that I’m knowledgeable and have an answer for every question she throws at me. Coming across knowledgeable to your child can reduce their anxiety and stress. And, this mamma is ready!!!
  4. When the above fails, because there’s a possibility all of it will. Remind your kid(s) of other “first” moments they’ve experienced. For example, I’m constantly saying do you remember the first day of elementary school, your first audition, first time on set, the first time  you saw yourself on an ad in a store, etc., This allows her (at least for a second) to think of other first moments, when she initially felt nervous and how quickly she overcame those feelings.
  5. Last, but definitely not least, keep the conversation going beyond the first day or week. But, most importantly, be honest and patient! Remind your kids it will be an amazing year and that this new beginning will soon be a positive memory. At least that’s what I’m telling my baby girl.

What are some things you’ve done (or currently doing) to help your child with eliminating or reducing the stress of new beginnings? Sound off in the comments….we want to hear from you.

Xoxo,

 

Ken

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  • Jay Taylor
    August 23, 2018 at 1:20 am

    Oh this is a great preparation list love. Looks like Syd will be well prepared given your thoughtful and intentional parenting skills. I think your experience and university background is very helpful too. Thanks for sharing!

    When my son transitioned from private to public (having parted ways with his friends) we researched and placed him in a camp the summer before school started that had quite a bit of kids whom were also going to the same school. We befriended a couple of parents of kids at the camp and that was very helpful since their kids had attended the school the prior year.

    We visited the school a few times and once we got word of who his teacher was we showed him her profile and when he finally met her he was very comfortable. Along with the administration as you stated.

    Also, we had him make a list of the top 10 things he loved about the new school and that was absolutely a hit. I think we got even more excited after that.

    He absolutely loves his school. A great feeling indeed. ❤️

    • Ken
      August 23, 2018 at 4:37 pm

      Thanks for the tips lady. I will definitely look up her teacher’s name (we haven’t got that information yet)and get her familiar with at least his/her face.

  • Virginia
    August 23, 2018 at 1:40 am

    Constantly talking to Knox about how changes can be good , have him trying differnt activities , not so much with his school friends .trying to prepare him for our move to L.A.

    • Ken
      August 23, 2018 at 4:35 pm

      Talking to them is so important. Preparation is KEY!

  • Tamiko
    August 23, 2018 at 2:20 am

    Great read

    • Ken
      August 23, 2018 at 4:34 pm

      Thank you, lady!

  • Serrieux
    August 23, 2018 at 1:34 pm

    That’s amazing. She’ll do great, she already has a great base.

    • Ken
      August 23, 2018 at 4:34 pm

      Thank you for reading. She will, that’s precisely what I keep telling her.

  • Chioma
    August 23, 2018 at 9:19 pm

    My kids moved to a completely different city. My 9th and 10th grader and there friends had planned for high school literally from elementary school.

    The move was scary but necessary. I educated myself about the new schools n boy did they have questions.When talking and negotiations failed, i prayed. Well turns out when school started the reassurances, prayers and talks worked.

    As always i love your write up and your strategies are on point.